So, I suck at making these on a regular basis, but that's nothing new. I have no real excuse except... life. Because it's been- I didn't mean to let two months go by since the last video, but I did. I can't say that there's been any drastic physical changes that I've noticed since then, but it's definitely been like a steady progression in... in the right direction. (Admiring own facial hair in the camera) So there's that.
I'm not sure if my voice has gotten deeper; it seems to be settling a little bit more now but still, still getting the bottom of my range. That's starting to come in, but my speaking voice, I think, has kind of settled where, probably where it's going to be at. Which- I'm fine with that. It's not a high pitched voice. (Notices jawline hair is crooked in the camera view) Annnnd I did a sucky job shaving. Yeeeeah, I'm still getting the hang of that, too.
Yeah.
So.
Not... a lot of other physical changes that I've noticed apart from this coming in thicker, (Gestures to chin and jaw) but I've also been really slacking on working out so that doesn't help. (Looks down) Sorry, there's a distracting cat. She doesn't think the door should be closed. At all. Ever. (Picks up unresisting lump of tortoiseshell cat) You gotta make a cameo if you're gonna interrupt things. You're on video. You're Youtube famous. She's purring.
One thing that has happened that's... that's kept me and my wife both distracted is a friend of ours that was out of state- my best friend, really, moved in with us. Um, so that's been absorbing; both prepping the house for them and, you know, it -it feels like a sleepover. (Laughs) Haven't gotten over that yet, 'cuz it feels like 'oh my gosh, they're visiting, we've got to like, do all the fun stuff and, and you know, stay up late and party because the novelty hasn't quite worn off yet. Um, but, definitely a good living arrangement, I'm happy with it. And I'm saying they and them, I should be using xe and xer, um, but I have trouble adapting to gender pronouns too. I'm getting used to it.
It's a little bit of a newer thing to have those gender pronouns for our friend, but it got me thinking; I hear a lot about trans people and LGBTQ people in general have a lot of LGBTQ friends. And it makes sense because there is a community, and it's an activist community, and a supportive community, and people get involved in that and make friends within that framework. I hear a lot about that, okay that's a thing, but it got me thinking, we have a lot of friends, my wife and I have had for a very long time, that did not *know* that they were in the LGBTQ spectrum when we met them. Sooo that's coming at it from a slightly different approach. Um... (Petting cat in lap) You purr so loud everybody's going to hear you on the video. (Laughs)
So, yeah, we've got the best friend of ours is non-binary, did not know that when I met xer, so, it fits. It definitely fits. A lot of these revelations that have come from friends is similar to how, I think, friends of ours reacted when I cam out as trans. It's like 'oh yeah, yeah that makes a lot of sense.' rather than any shock or surprise. Another friend of ours realized after we've known her for a while that she is bisexual or pansexual and is now entering into a poly relationship, so... (shrugs)
I've got another looser friend that we thought was another lesbian couple and it turns out one of them realized that, that he was trans as well, I think probably about the same time that I did. But we came to those conclusions very separately and then we're like 'wait, are you..? Oh, you- oh, okay!' so there's, there's a lot of people in our circle that it's come about after my wife and I got to know them, and knew them for years, and I don't know what that phenomenon is and if that's, you know, people seeking out like-minded individuals even though they didn't *know* to start with that they were like-minded individuals- or *how* like-minded they were. Or is it also, you know, some exposure giving people the arena to realize? Because that's what happened to me. I'm obviously a late bloomer, but what happened is I grew up in a very liberal area; Lesbian and gay was all over, PFLAG was all over the campus, but I don't remember anybody talking about transgender people. I don't think I'd even heard that term until I was at least in my twenties, and it was... joining a community where I saw people talking about it and how it felt, and how it works, that made me realize that that's me. So possibly having friends who go through the experience of 'Oh, I, you know I fit with this group, I fit with this thing that is not necessarily the cultural norm,' the friends see that and go 'wait a minute, that makes sense to me too.'
Um, I don't know if that's the case but it would make a lot of sense, so just, just a thought. A thought without an answer. (Cradles cat)
Um, anyways, we've got xer settling in with us. I'm hoping sooner or later I will get xer and my wife in on videos, but I'm also a little bit camera nervous every time so I do typically tend to do these when I'm kind of by myself just so that housemates aren't hearing me talking to myself in another room. It makes you a little self-conscious. Maybe one of these I'll get over that -One of these *days* I'll get over that. Maybe not.
(To cat, who is squirming) Excuse you. Froggy is not camera shy, clearly. (Rubs cat's head and shoves her gently off lap.)
So I've got a short song to sing today- (Wipes face & nose) Cat hair. I can't imagine where *that* came from. My whole life is full of pet hair. That's what I get for working at a vet. Anyways. I had another song in mind, but... it's a little more melancholy and it would sound really better with guitar. I have, you know, my list of -I don't want to say resolutions, but things that I'd like to do this year, and one of these is to get back into trying to learn the guitar. I *have* one. I need to restring it again because I thought I could play it left-handed and *apparently* I can't. I need to play guitar right-handed, which is... weird because I'm a left-handed person, very dominantly so. But if I can kick myself into working and practicing on the guitar then maybe eventually I can use that on these videos. I would like to wait until I'm not terrible at it. For your sake as much as for mine. But in the meantime you get another Fraggle Rock song because they're easy to learn and... goddamn the music from that show was awesome, and nostalgia. (Thumbs up) So, here with my settling voice. Gradually.
(Acapella Singing)
Every day the world begins again
Sunny skies or rain
Come and follow me
Every sunrise shows me more and more
So much to explore
Come and follow me
Every morning every day
Every evening calling me away
While the sun goes 'round
I'll still be found
Following the sound
Something's calling me
When the world goes drifting back to bed
Memories in my head
Wonders follow me
Every morning every day
Every evening calling me away
Every morning every day
Every evening calling me away
I... think that's all I've got to say today? Oh! I did start a blog, which I'll link in the description, so that I can maybe get some of these thoughts and feelings about being trans written. Sometimes that's a lot easier than sitting down and filming, that's a little bit of a longer commitment. Sorry it's a shorter video today, but... (helpless hand gesture). I'll try! No promises.
'Til next time.
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